Healing Transformation

Whether you are just starting counseling or have been on the path for some time we are here to help. This journey of healing transformation can test your mettle. The grief, trauma, and panic can bring you to your knees with despair and pain. This healing journey can be extremely challenging and requires time and effort. But, with the right tools and guide the landmines of counseling can be avoided and the struggle can be predicted and scheduled to be the most beneficial to your over all health and well being.

Transformation is a Heroic Journey

 

Healing Transformation can be slow at times, full of obstacles and set backs. It can require more of us than we are ready to give. I often remind patients that this problem did not start with them or even their parents. When you work through intergenerational trauma you are not only liberating your mind and psyche, but helping own your reactivity and inner peace.

 

Why we call Healing Transformation a Heroes Journey

• Overcoming trauma, depression, anxiety and shyness.
• You own your reactivity, see yourself through new eyes of openness and humbleness
• Take responsibility for your part and own your challenges.
• By owning your challenges, you liberate yourself from the role of a victim and promote your inner strength and fortitude!
• Those closest to you will remark on your growth. And even those you have struggled with in your past will notice and comment on the new you!

Healing Transformation and Ambivalance

Lets be honest, change is very hard! And while you may truly want to change and start the journey of healing transformation there often there are barriers. The most common barriers come from within in the form of outcome and process resistance. These are blocks to actually wanting the change and struggling with dedicated consistent effort.

 

Outcome Resistance

Outcome resistance happens when we aren’t totally committed to the change. We aren’t sure what our lives will be like without the behavior, addiction, or power struggle that has been part of our day to day life. Sometimes we have been caught in this vortex of inaction for more than 10, 20 or even 30 years. Resistance may be habitual ingrained behavior and it may provide really valuable relief. For example, if you fight with your spouse about chores it may reduce the number of requests for help around the house. Or perhaps you are out of shape, overeat to manage stress or struggle with your finances. You may even reason “I can always change”. This leaves you living in some future place where all is well, whenever you are ready.

The take away point with outcome resistance is this: don’t struggle with it. Learn and understand from this resistance, learn what it has to teach. In other words: let’s befriend our shadow side. I often hear clients say, there are no good reasons for my behavior, I just want to change it right now! I’m so sick of this problem. But it’s this very condemning demeaning inner critic that is part of the problem. I mean, if it took 20 years to fully develop a problem, it makes sense that the solution may take some time as well. In fact when I have clients complete a decision matrix to fully reveal their shadow resistance, the benefits of the problem come quickly into focus.

Process Resistance

This is another form of resistance to moving forward in treatment or action. This form of resistance centers on our frustration and difficulty with putting in sustained effort to make the break thru we are looking for. This is often a cause of people needing to go alcohol and drug treatment multiple times in order to truly make the change they are looking for.

 

Healing Transformation and Your Inner Truth:

Integrating the stress and guidance from our environment can be a overwhelming job. Our closest allies, Careers and Society place significant demands on us.These demands include judgment around our Actions, Speech and Thoughts.

Knowing when to be open and authentic and when to be social and go with the flow requires a life time of mastery and hard work. However, the payoff is a more happy authentic self with more friends and influence and supprrters.

As life becomes increasingly more complex and public, navigating these demands through our social self, to achieve authentic joy, becomes more difficult. But don’t take my word for it: look at Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, linked in and other social media. Our inner quiet worlds become smaller and smaller. Our public word has grown to proportions never seen before. Anybody can be famous or humiliated overnight on you tube, instagram and other social media.
Helping you identify and integrate these forces, to find your happy place, is our primary mission!

 

 

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Information provided on this site does not constitute a patient therapist relationship, and should be used under the guidance of a licensed mental health professional. Information presented on this page was written by James Meyer, LCSW Lead Counselor and founder of Lions Heart Counseling Sacramento.

Information presented on this page was written by James Meyer, LCSW and found on the NIMH website.